Signals from the universe

  

   Pardon me for such a cliche title with a cliche topic, but I did receive a signal from the universe to pick this one and ponder to my heart’s content! Before you abandon my post for another eye-catching title followed by an equally sensational content, let me get back on track. I believe I can divide the readers of this blog into two categories- one who believe in the existence and influence of signals, messages, intuitions, dreams, beliefs, and direct connection with the world around, and the others who dismiss the idea as totally fictional, only created by movie makers and authors to create unwanted sensation. The point is not to identify your group and read the post with a prejudice. 

Neither do I intend to evaluate the right from the wrong or analyze the usefulness or uselessness of talking to the universe. You may or may not do the above said activity as per your stem of faith. I will not touch that sensitive domain of personal beliefs, but I am tempted to share what, why and how I feel about this interesting concept. Kindly read it with a pinch of salt. And again, as I always say (more like a universal mantra of all my posts), you are absolutely encouraged to disagree, agree, reject, ignore or applaud. After all, as long as you are not within my arm’s reach, what is the harm in disagreeing?

  Coming to the title in question, do you believe in signals from the universe? 

Is there something that connects us to the universe as a whole? 

Should we or should we not pay attention to these links of communication or are they just tricks to convince our mind into doing something?

 While you think about it, let me start with a disclaimer. Do not overthink and find yourself lost in a dense forest of nothingness. There are no right or wrong answers to it, so kindly activate your sense of humor, before we step forward.

 If you ask me (or even if you don’t, I will take the liberty of answering ;)) I do understand the occurrence of these signals, only and only when my mind must be tricked into believing something. If there are conflicting interests that don’t seem to erase the confusion come-what-may, I hunt around for such signals and convince myself about the perfectness of those decisions. In simpler words, if I am having a tough time to get my mind on board, I use the tactics of these universe signals. I am not sure if they do the actual work, but they seem to do their part in supporting my mind morally. Signals from universe are designed to remind us about the perfectness of our decisions. While we are engrossed in finding out whether we are heading towards the right direction, anything that reminds us even in the slightest way seems to work wonders. Suddenly, I find myself delighted and excited as though the universe has approved. I agree these beliefs are hinting towards mind-games, but as long as it does not harm and helps one achieve their ideas, there is nothing wrong to say the least.

 We cannot consider these signals as confirmations sent out from the universe because after all they are created by us, believed by us and implemented as per our desire. We can only use them as rightful pieces of moral support.

But what constitutes these signals, you ask? There is no clear or direct signal that qualifies to be titled as the perfect wireless communication from up above, but it is more or less centered on my thoughts, intuition, and perfectly timed occurrences. If all of this sounds too imaginary, let me elaborate through certain real-life situations to help relate better.

1.       You think about something and sincerely hope/wish/pray/beg/or do whatever form of wishing you do to get it. Suddenly, while you are at it, you hear a song with that reference or look at an image which points towards it in a larger frame of context.

2.       You are walking on the road thinking about your next big plan/project/ desire/ assignment/duty/responsibility and you observe random words on billboards or shops that hint towards the same in some form.

3.       You end up having conversations with numerous people who elaborate some form of the same situation you are looking at.

4.       You hear or read about aspects that relate to your central dominating thought in different ways, for example- same location, story, movie, person, relationship etc.

    Though I believe more in actions and less in thoughts, I do enjoy the occasional play with signals from the universe. Look around for signals, interpret them my way and enjoy a good laugh. I find happiness in this one-way signaling where my antenna seems to trap messages, though they are not really sent from top above, but crafted from deep within. They serve no good purpose except entertaining my mind because at the end, these are nothing but figments of my imagination. Stressing it over and over again to make sure the humor is delivered well- these signals are purely fun-filled pieces of belief. Nothing can validate, warn or authenticate if we are incorrect or correct except the strong belief in ourselves. So, in case you plan to head out hunting for these signals outside, remember to first seek them somewhere on the inside.

How good are you with these signals? Are you able to interpret them or you don’t seem to bother?

Can we agree to disagree?

   Call it maturity or enhanced sense of understanding, I find myself at peace whenever and wherever I end up disagreeing with those around me. The old self-confessed ‘perfectionist’ me would have hated the thought of not being able to weave others into my thoughts. Or that same ‘perfectionist’ I would make every possible effort to prove a point in any and every manner. But now the new ‘choose your battles wisely’ self (more on this in another post) finds it easy to not bother about agreement or disagreement. There is nothing outstanding or exceptional about it, but the ability to disagree with someone without slightest hint of arrogance, superiority or friction is something worth pondering. While I often self-congratulate myself for this new found sense of maturity, I am tempted to think about the concept of ‘agreeing to disagree’.

  Can we peacefully agree to obey differences of opinion or does it turn into our agenda to turn every person’s opinion our way come-what-may? 

 Is it really essential to be a people pleaser who is perfect and gets nods in every aspect of life or is it okay to do something different that does not fit into the universal mold of acceptance? 

 Is there something wrong if we agree to disagree or should we influence these differences one way or the other to gain agreements from everyone around us? 

  What is the harm in agreeing to disagree or do we fear rejection from the society if we cannot keep everyone on our page?

   Now while you ponder about these unusual questions that may or may not have entered your chain of thoughts in the past, let me take you through my thought-process. And the best part of this exercise – you can agree to disagree right from the first word moving forward. Though I wouldn’t deny the immense happiness of getting a perfect feedback where all of you would agree with me, I will still manage to shake hands with my new found contentment.  I believe there is lot of power in the concept of ‘agreeing to disagree’. There is no harm in expressing your opinions. There is nothing wrong if the world does not understand your side of the story or finds it difficult to not form a completely contrasting judgement of the tale. As long as you are sure of your take with conviction, there is fun in ‘agreeing to disagree’.

 So let me take the liberty of justifying disagreements and wait for your agreement over it.

1.       The value of taking your stand and staying true to what you believe in outweighs the temporary happiness of pleasing people. This temporary happiness will make you feel happy for a really tiny, short while that may not be worth it.

2.       Each one of us is entitled to our opinions. The efforts of transforming someone’s disagreement into agreement will drain away that much needed energy for more productive work.

3.       Where does the process of converting opinions end? Because it is practically impossible to convince everyone is it really needed? As we begin to realize the process is worthless to say the least we are able to make peace with it every step of the way.

4.       Expressing this disagreement in a good form is the real challenge. How we communicate our difference of opinion is the trick. Whether we choose good words and peaceful speech or blurt out anger and end up fighting like hot-headed coals can change the entire experience.

5.       When such conflicting situations tend to bring you down, think about what matters the most to you. If you value self-respect and choose self-love over the need to be a people pleaser, you can make peace with not wanting to agree with others but at the same time expressing your heart and mind in the clearest possible way.

 I completely agree stating these thoughts in black and white is not as easy as it seemed when I started with the post. We all go through wide array of experiences – good, bad, happy, sad. And it is only natural to go through diverse experiences with those around us. It does not matter whether we agree or disagree as long as we know how to value the underlying bond of love and affection. Understanding the concept of ‘agreeing to disagree’ as a statement of literature is one thing, and implementing it in reality is another. We may agree to its benefits but whether we are able to implement it while swallowing our ego/pride/arrogance is the reality that only time will tell.

 In introspect, agreeing or disagreeing may never be the main concern as much as we make it to be. Our in-built nature to seek approval may drive us towards this urge but if are able to trust our beliefs without slightest scope for doubts, we are good to go. But again, this depends on what clicks your thought-process. There is nothing right or wrong about it. With this, I leave you all on an open note- 

What matters – agreeing with yourself or agreeing with everyone, but yourself?