Are you flexible enough?

   

     In the wake of new trend of gyms and physical fitness, you may assume this post will talk about your fitness regime. Or it will be about little kids and adults who dance flexibly on various reality shows. Or it will be about various sports and flexible activities that ensure you stay strong and active all lifelong. 

   

    Do not worry, there is enough awareness and buzz about physical fitness around you; there is no need that my blogs should venture into that space. I shall save you from additional doses of age-old information on fitness or modern styles to achieve it. Then what do I mean when I question about flexibility? If I am not targeting physical flexibility, what am I hinting at?

    Well, the idea behind this blog is to ponder about flexibility of our mind. Again the question arises, what does it mean? As bizarre as it sounds, can your mind be flexible? Think about it for a short while and answer it yourself, before you listen to my long chain of thoughts. (after all, you have no other option!) 

      On a serious note, when I first thought about it, my idea moved towards the concept of ‘adaptability’. We all have heard about ‘adaptation’ in our primary school lessons which talk about changes and adjustments made by living things to survive in a given environment in a successful way. While that form of adaption was inclined towards biological features and activities for survival, I wanted to explore adaptability of mind.

   Since childhood, we all are programmed to live in a certain way. As we ascend the ladder of life, we learn various aspects in a step wise manner. Parents and teachers play an instrumental role as they help us in building a strong foundation for the future. They teach us about acceptable form of behavior and introduce us to the world of good manners. Slowly and steadily, as we grow along the way, we become matured enough to put these theoretical lessons into practical assignments. We deal with wide range of people and react accordingly to survive within a competitive platform. 

    Though we have a strong system of thoughts and values in place, we must be able to display flexibility to move ahead with the latest trend. Holding our traditional values is essential, but marching ahead with modern thoughts is equally important too. It does not mean, we compromise our beliefs, but it also does not mean we stay away from an opportunity under the disguise of our ‘age-old’ customs.

  There is a thin line behind compromising our values and accepting modern trends

     Understanding this can lead to prosperity. With changing times, it is necessary to change certain aspects of our lifestyle, but definitely not at the cost of hurting our values and sentiments. Being flexible is opening doors to new progressive ideas without pushing away the good old ones. Flexibility is an open minded approach towards positive changes. 

     It is knowing what is good, what is bad and what is avoidable under the manner of ‘being modern’. Just because you want to fit into the society and be flexible, you cannot do so at the cost of making major life alterations.

     Experiments and experiences reflect the concept of adaptability in our routine life. There is no harm in trying out a new cuisine or wearing a new outfit that you may never have thought before. Grandparents who try out burgers and noodles look cutest as they participate in new trends for the love of grand-kids. Or parents who try out modern outfits after being forced by their kids look amazing with shying smiles. Elders with smartphones and social media apps appear cute in a tech savvy way as they want to be one with the wide global world. These examples are picked up from my own set of people as my family is flexible enough to try out various things.

    Breaking stereotypical attitude is extremely essential to ensure progress and development. Just because certain things were followed by our ancestors does not mean they were foolproof in every way. How else would you explain the progress made by women in today’s world or justify the trend of global progress? If we were confined to our houses to follow the age-old practices or if we refused to change our traditional food habits; would it be possible to achieve happiness in today’s setup? Flexibility with changing times ensures the joy of living in the present.

    This concept of adaptability is all about understanding what is essential and beneficial for us in a balanced manner along the contemporary period. Extreme rigidity is detrimental to progress, while extreme flexibility may show signs of instability. If we understand these ideas for our own good, we can sow those seeds for children of tomorrow. 

 Though I have come to the end of this post, I am tempted to share the root idea behind this article. While listening to an enthusiastic grandfather on a television show, I was amazed as he spoke about his first foreign trip and various preparations done by his family. It made me realize the value of flexibility as we all must try out something new.

  Think about your own experiences and share your comments here. It is fun to be a sport sometimes. Break free and be flexible, after all life is all about experiments and experiences! Capture yourself with something trendy and preserve these memories for your kids and grand-kids down the line.

P.S: Try this concept of flexibility at your own risk. I am not responsible if your family members refuse to identify you in your new trendy ‘avatar’ or demand exotic fast food every single day!! 

The battle is real….so is the struggle

    No, this isn’t a battle of genders in light of growing feminism. It is not a battle between relations, lifestyle, present, future, innovation or principles. It is my own battle against a tiny little monster who chose to enter into our lives in a rather unexpected way. It is said when everything goes smoothly, we may start taking life for granted. One big blow and you realize there is more to life than sailing on safe waters. 

   

    When everything seems to be going as per plan, life has something unusual to offer. And that is exactly what seems to be on my cards, when those unwanted words hit my ears. For a science graduate into words and knowledge, confirmed diagnosis from the doctor was all I needed to initiate my battle. A battle with Hodgkin’s lymphoma, a battle with cells of my own body who chose to misbehave, this post is my way to express everything settled deep within.

      Two months into the treatment and still a long way to go, my idea of penning such a blog was to express what I felt so far. The idea is not to garner any form of sympathy or hope for miracles to work, the idea was to speak my heart out through a form that has been my best friend all this while. Even amidst all the uncertainties and chaos in our routine lives, one thing remained the same always and that had to be my love for words. This entire phase of close to six months so far has been nothing less than an undesirable dream, yet it has taught me so many things about life.

   I have never been more close to the thought ‘Necessity is the mother of invention’, as I started approaching positivity and happiness with open arms. I realized there is more to life than postponing the joy of present. As I savor every single moment with a true heart, I understand the need to live one day at a time. Supportive family, amazing doctor, caring staff and team of wonderful friends is all I can ask for as every single member has been instrumental in keeping me happy and happening. 

   Experiences like these make you strong and urge you to find the spark from deep within. I shall not complain over my destiny or cry over my story. There is no one to validate my end of experiences and change the output on the basis of my previous deeds. All I have is one life to make it all right. It has made me look into precious aspects such as present happiness as that seems to be permanent. Every single day is a new story in itself as I encounter diverse moments. It unfolds as a bag full of surprises and returns back to its usual clock for a next day in succession.

   Today, as I look at the journey so far or ponder about the path ahead, I have urged myself to focus on the good aspects and one such good aspect that has steamed from it is ‘stay away from future.’ For a mind that always pouched at the first opportunity to run away from the present and dream about the future, this habit has made me value the current moment that I live in. It has made me focus on what I should do today rather than plan about tomorrow that is uncertain and hidden in its own way.

    I do not want this experience to change any relations with my set of people or alienate them in any way. I only wish to pump more energy, love, emotions and warmth in every experience that I encounter along the way. Medicines will do their wonders, while thoughts and prayers will do theirs. It has opened my eyes to the true meaning of life. While I am sure this experience will not transform me into a flawless individual, it will definitely change my perspective towards it in a huge way.

     While I continue this battle with a long struggle that follows, there is so much more to explore, experience, enjoy and encounter. Positive and healthy thoughts are all I need to continue the battle. A battle to emerge victorious over the dark clouds of that dreaded ‘C’.

P.S: Though I conclude this post, there is so much more I wanted to write about but words seem to fall short. I shall definitely follow up this post with more experiences along the way. Till then live in the present and spread love, smiles and laughter!

They came, they saw, they conquered…

 …..and left us with loads of memories for many more years to come.  Wondering who are ‘they’? What am I referring to as I appreciate their presence? Well, this ‘they’ stands for my family who visited us in the US of A. As my sister, brother-in-law and little nephew made their debut appearance in our home away from home, every single moment was precious to the core. While their version of story will describe the experiences and adventures in a foreign land, my version shall talk about the happiness of spending time with them. Suddenly as me and husband switched roles from being NRIs to local folks for their guided tours, this stay blessed us with varied experiences and interesting memories.

     From converting our ‘some-what’ bachelor pad to a child-proof apartment, from hunting for a child car seat to watching videos to fix it well, from planning trips to managing time, as we geared for their arrival, we realized that the preparation was much longer than their actual stay.

     With a cute toddler of 22 months and loads of luggage, as my sister and brother-in-law crossed the Pacific Ocean in a long air voyage, their efforts, patience and courage definitely deserve recognition. Writing a blog to their name will be my little way to thank them for such an exciting experience as it gave us the happy opportunity to be ‘the hosts’. While it will be unacceptable to call ourselves as the best hosts, I hope my sister will get into action soon to praise us well! As I look at their stay as one long enjoyable dream, I feel it lasted only for a few hours.

     Memories of their preparation are more loud and clear as we exchanged messages about what to bring, what to plan and what to expect. Soon as their arrival day approached and the fun started, it was time to bid them good-bye! This short stay of few weeks was exciting to show them our side of life in a foreign land. Every single moment was loaded with facts, information and data as there was so much to share. Presenting the happy, sad, memorable, not-so memorable and difficult shades of life in a different country seemed to flow as a movie, as we kept them occupied all the while.

Confession:  This post may tend to get too personalized, but I promise to stay away from such a temptation!

The cutie pie: Coming to the little toddler who was the hero of the entire event, I believe his glory will demand a separate post! While we always wondered about what must be going on in his mind, our curiosity was directed towards does he realize that he is almost 8000 miles on the other end of the globe? His excitement of watching airplanes from land was totally evident, but does he realize he too sat in one such plane, up above the ground?

    While he is too small to understand any of these things, we enjoyed every single bit with him. From enjoying free rides on his stroller to see the world around to sitting in a special seat inside the car, from exploring the toy section in every mall to enjoying home cooked and outside meals whenever and wherever he wished, the little guest was undoubtedly the king of the trip. His enthusiasm, support, smiles and interest added life to the entire experience as he joined his parents in the adventure. His unique language, broken words, mischievous acts and cute demands shall stay alive in our house as he added life to our apartment walls and floor.

The elder hero: No wonder my nephew is a cutie pie as he grabs his looks from a handsome father (and yes, a beautiful mother!) An enthusiastic member who showed interest in every single adventure that we planned, my brother-in-law brought energy to the trip. Be it trying out novel cuisines or making delicious food for us, he was the culinary star of the tour. Our appetite and taste buds will definitely miss him a lot as he introduced us to some amazing new dishes. After leaving my sister and brother-in-law inside Walmart for some peaceful shopping, the outcome was delicious dinner for several days in a row!

The gorgeous queen: I cannot dare to finish this post without talking about my sister who was the gorgeous care-giver of the entire experience. From planning meals for the little kid to organizing travel bags for our short trips, from making home-made meals as we demanded to taking care of every member, my sister was the backbone of such an interesting experience. The credit for successful accomplishment of a long journey with a little fellow in hand goes to my sister as she planned every bit to detail. With enthusiastic eyes and excited mind as she explored all the places and experiences with us, it was amazing to feel the energy.

   As these memorable days came to an end quickly, we truly enjoyed it to the last bit. While it was impossible to prolong the happiness, we are only left behind with valuable memories to cherish for a lifetime. It is during such times when you realize – wealth, ambition, career or assets will never be able to replace the joy of spending valuable moments with loved ones!

  Till we create more such memories, I wish each one of you also create several memorable moments to last a lifetime!

P.S: Dear Sister and Bro-in-law, you should be grateful that I did not reveal any deep secrets about your excessive shopping! Well, you are welcome!

Freedom of choice

 

    ‘Freedom’ – a word that garnered great significance during the Independence era. Be it our own home country or other countries fighting for their share of independence, freedom meant everything for people back then. After gaining freedom, when citizens of the country were finally able to breathe free air, lot of changes came into effect thereafter. We all enjoy these fruits of freedom against the villains of history, but are we truly ‘free’ in every way? When we think about freedom, what is the most important form that each one of us deserves? Even though we call ourselves independent, are we really free in every domain of our life?

   The form of freedom that I am hinting at is ‘freedom of choice’. Are we free enough to choose a life for ourselves? Are we able to make our own decisions, without being weighed down by society pressures and judgments? Are we free to stand by our words and obey it till the end? I hope you all must be answering these questions in the assertive tone. Such affirmative answers will really make me happy, as the real essence of this blog stems from the fact that freedom of choice is certainly the greatest gift we can ever enjoy. More than facilities, services, assets or wealth if there is one single thing that can make us truly happy, it is the right to make our own choices.

    We often take this gift for granted. The freedom to choose our education, career, lifestyle, profession, hobbies, life partner and behavior turns into an unappreciated factor as we fail to realize its true worth. Writing a blog about its significance is my way to thank each and every individual and experience that enable me to enjoy this freedom of choice. Be it parents who have always let me take my own decisions or my husband who supports me in my choices; be it school that made me confident to stand for myself or my higher education that prepared me for being independent; freedom of choice has been the strongest highlight of my journey.

   When we talk about freedom of choice, it is the ability to experiment, explore, improve and progress. It is breaking away from the stereo-typical age-old attitude that causes more harm than good. It is about expanding the horizon and being fearless. It is about following what your heart says and working for your passion. Freedom of choice is enjoying every single thing that you do. How else can you explain the accolades earned by people in every walk of life? Instead of crying over destiny or relying over society judgments, when people follow their instincts and work hard for their choices, they are able to reach exceptional levels of success. While we congratulate and applaud such achievers for their progress, we should remember the role of freedom.

     Freedom of choice instills maturity and responsibility. It makes one strong and sound to take care of their own efforts. But just as nothing is free in life, freedom of choice also demands its own price. This price is totally affordable as it talks about sensibility and maturity. We should respect people and policies, while exercising our freedom of choice. It should not harm or hurt others as we go around declaring our ‘right’ over everything. Besides, freedom of choice is not a guaranteed lottery to success. Though we can take our decisions or choose from variety of options, we should also seek advice and help, when needed. Enjoying this freedom in a responsible way is all it takes to have a happy and fulfilled life.  

      What are some of the significant choices that we make in our life?

-          Education stream

-          Career

-          Lifestyle

-          Work profile

-          Food

-          Marriage

-          Fitness

-          Hobbies

-          Travel

-          Recreation

-          Clothing style

-          Assets

-          House decor

Every single content on this list influences our existence closely, making it essential to choose the best and enjoy the rest!

    What are your ideas on freedom of choice? Have you experienced this free will always or have your encountered restrictions based on gender, religion, caste, culture, lifestyle or nationality?

Respect this freedom of choice and make the most of its privilege. If any of our little efforts can be instrumental in creating a truly free world, it will be definitely worth it. Let us hope that the black lines of restrictions are erased from wherever they exist to offer freedom of choice to every single individual on this planet.  

At times, all you need are words…

“Is her inclination towards words predictable, considering her role as a writer?”

“Is she saying so because she deals with words all the time?”

 “Is this title powered by her love for words?”

   I am sure many such questions must be arising in your mind after reading the title of this blog. After working with words for several days now, this inclination is usual and obvious. It is said words have more power than any other aspects in life. Words deliver their message in the most straightforward manner, proving useful and significant at the same time. Words have a direct impact between communicators, conveying its meaning in a flawless manner.

   Words can cast their spell in a universal style and have a unique effect as per circumstances. Every situation has its own appropriate set of words that deliver their worth effectively.

  But, what is the purpose of diving into such a topic? As we all know the necessity of words, what will set this post apart? The primary source of inspiration for this post are the motivational and inspirational quotes that we come across regularly. When we read such powerful stock of words, they instill positivity and hope into our system that can last for a long time. Their primary purpose is to encourage us for difficulties or realities of life. Each of these quotes or messages are situational that can apply to specific circumstances or experiences in the journey of life, yet they mean a lot in the process. And the joy of stumbling upon correct quotes at the most appropriate timing leave a sense of satisfaction that cannot be explained.

   Besides the daily stock of inspiration through messages, words play an important role along heart-to-heart conversations. Be it feelings of love and affection or confession of honest thoughts, words expressing consolation or thoughts about encouragement, words are always essential along the way. Materials and assets cannot replace the purity of words. Words hold a deeper meaning that connect to the point with essence of truth and honesty. During times of despair or defeat, all we need are few encouraging words to get back on track. We may not be able to appreciate their meaning at that very instant, but their impact can definitely cast a lasting spell.

    Along some difficult situations in life, when we look around for hope and support, we realize the true meaning of words delivered by our loved ones. As we seek encouragement and affection, the power of words by our inner circle of influence makes all the difference. Their words have the energy to pull us out from sorrow and bring us back on track. Hence words are all we need, when other sources of inspiration fail to make any significant impact.

   Words have the unique power to heal and hurt. If shower of words are followed by feelings of anger and hatred, they can spoil the entire show in matter of minutes. Just as words can offer joy and encouragement, they can easily break a show by pouncing at the incorrect moment. Hence timing is the most important factor, when it comes to the show of words. Once words are delivered, it is impossible to take them back.

   With this, let us look at the therapeutic effect of words.

1.       Encouragement: When the goal is right in front of us, yet demands the most important final and difficult step. Words of encouragement accomplish the task of giving one last push, enabling fulfillment and success.

2.       Inspiration: When the going seems tough and impossible, one inspirational note can certainly work wonders. It can prompt one to look beyond the difficulties and hunt for a solution to keep moving.

3.       Communication: When new ties and bonds are formed, words enable effective communication and healthy relationships. As exchange of words lead to mutual exchange of thoughts, it eventually turns into a strong bond.

4.       Consolation: During stressful times, words act as powerful supporters that can relieve the stress to a certain extent. Though it is impossible to erase the pain solely by the weight-age of words, they are essential to offer that much needed support.

   As pieces of communication, words are truly magical in every way. Languages vary, words vary but the underlying purpose of delivering their true purpose shall always remain the same.

Spread the magic of words, use them righteously, enjoy their presence and pass on the message. After all words reach where our possessions fail to!

Sunny days

     I am sure you all must be wondering about this unusual topic for a blog. A post on sunny days? A post about the sun that rises every day, shines over us and sets back for a dark evening? What is so exciting about sunny days that deserves a post to its name? To answer all these questions, let me take you on a trip through my experiences. If I was still a resident of my home city Mumbai back in India, such a blog post would never appear in my thoughts. But after relocating to a cold country with uncertain weather conditions every single day, sunny days are really significant and valuable. While scorching heat is a typical feature all year around in my home city, I never realized I shall miss it so much after this change in location.

    With no fixed seasonal pattern, we end up with random mix of days. While some days are nice and sunny with bright smile from the sun, the cloudy and boring ones are the least desired. It is only after this major relocation, when I realized the value of sun. Sunny days undoubtedly have a great impact over our moods, behavior, nature and outlook, bringing positivity and cheer to the routine. They pump energy into our system, prompting us to take charge and make a difference. Bright light from the sun illuminates our spirits, encouraging us to look at the happier side of life. Sunny days appear as blessing, urging us to explore our limits and attempt novel changes.

     This happy thought over sunny days is shared by majority of the population as sun is truly a universal source of energy. Ideal for outings and trips, sunny days enhance the enthusiasm among people across all age groups. While I was programmed for monotonous climatic conditions in my home city, I was amazed at the power of weather that changes almost every single day at this new location. Though rainy season back in the home city did translate into several dark days in a row, their uncertainty was not as prominent as it is here today. 

    Checking daily weather conditions and celebrating sunny weekends are almost part of our routine now. Sunny days and weekends transform into special festival days, when people move out of their homes for the dosage of vitamin D. Shining sun opens up the calendar with scope for outdoor activities and fun-filled tasks.

       It is only after you reside in extremely cold conditions, when you realize the true value of sunny days. While I was ignorant about the role of weather before, my views have been transformed completely. Little did I know that sunny days can bring a drastic change in experiences and thoughts, making it extremely precious in our lives? Though we all love sunny days with its unlimited stock of energy, dull rainy days are equally essential too. After all they are source of water, bringing freshness all around.

    Sometimes sunny conditions are more than just climatic features. They are emotions and feelings that bring out joy from deep within. To appreciate this thought better, you should live under belt of snow for 3-4 months or experience uncertainty of rainfall for almost 2-3 months. Only those who experience sunny days as a welcoming break from uncertain weather can relate to the happiness of seeing a clear blue sky with bright sunshine.

   To conclude this thought, let me summarize the essence of these happy sunny days with a joyous energetic flavor:

1.       Sunny days bring enthusiasm and energetic spirit to continue with the further course of action.

2.       Sunny days represent hope and joy that everything will fall into place, with a motivational essence to keep going.

3.       Shining sun stands for unlimited source of progress and development, as it paves way for new thoughts and newer feelings.

4.       They open up opportunities for outdoor fun, besides boost the body for fitness and vigor.

5.       It can take away dullness and sorrow from mind. They cast their influence over thoughts and feelings.

6.       Sunny days are all it takes to continue with any half done work or incomplete assignments.

7.       They stand for the thought that every day is different and we must seize the opportunity as and when it comes.

So, enjoy the sunny days and make hay while the sun shines. Welcome that much needed sunshine into your lives and make the most of its presence. After all happy sunny days shall fill your lives with hope for a better tomorrow! 

When I look back at my childhood….

    

     There is no doubt in stating that childhood is definitely the most memorable, wonderful, amazing and formative part of one’s life. It can be passed off as a fact that our childhood molds us into responsible individuals of the future. A phase that teaches us new lessons at every step along the way, this duration transforms us from little naive kids to matured adults. 

     Childhood is not just about learning and growing, it is also about enjoying the innocence of life. As life opens its pages one chapter at a time, childhood is that innocent phase that does not reveal all difficulties of the true struggle ahead. It protects us from several realities to be faced in future, making it a colorful time filled with sweet imagination. As kids we are brave, confident, positive and certain that life is all under our control. There is no limit to the faculty of imagination, when kids believe in the supernatural power of their superheroes or strength of their favorite fictional characters.

      Any essay on childhood can go on for several pages. Such is the beauty of the phase that it is filled with bright nostalgia. Childhood cannot be complete without the role of parents, siblings, teachers and friends that make the phase extremely enjoyable. One cannot explain the magic in dependence, as the balance between listening to elders and strong desire to pose as adults combines into a unique feeling. When the path seems clear it is fun to act as elders, only to cry for their help at the very next moment. Childhood is the foundation that builds mannerism, behavior, nature and reaction for the adult years of life.

       Each one of us have loads of memories from this irreplaceable phase. No matter which end of the world we go to or what kind of lifestyle we choose for ourselves, childhood shall always remain close to our lives. One mention of anything related to our childhood and the stories do not cease. Many a times, when we look at anything that is remotely related to our childhood, we find ourselves pulled to the golden era. This usually ends with repetitive narration of same old stories to those around us or action replay of the wonderful past in our world of thoughts. Whatever be the outcome, it is fun to associate ourselves with the glories of childhood.

      So, with this thought in mind, what does your childhood remind you off? What aspects of your personality are influenced by the lessons from this childhood? When you look back at your carefree phase today, what do you look at?

   While framing this post, I was motivated to look at my childhood and ponder about its unique flavors. I was tempted to revisit my past once again with an aim to think about all its colors and lights. We rarely think about the good, old past as present demands our attention and time, but when life offers us any opportunities to do so, it is fun to dive right in and get the feel of every single wave.

 

  Do share your end of story too as experiences add to the power of words.

  One contemplative look at my childhood and I see the following:

1.       Enthusiasm and energy: Childhood was all about unlimited energy and enthusiasm. There was a driving power to attempt every single task without any biased thoughts in mind. Though the energy can be sustained in adulthood too, it is marked with constant judgment and analysis. As kids, the enthusiasm was born out of the desire to try out things and experience it open arms.

2.       Less thoughts, more action: Over-thinking and over-analysis are all mind games of the adults. As a kid all that mattered was actions and play. Rather than bothering about rights and wrongs, the mind was more focused over games and activities. It did not pertain to play alone, every single domain including academics was more about work and less about analysis.

3.       Ego - invalid entry:  This was certainly one of the most obvious reality of childhood. Ego holds no place in childhood as mistakes and errors are part of usual routine. Attempting a mistake meant lessons from the elders and moving ahead without allowing it to cast a permanent hurtful mark. It was easier to delete errors and refrain from committing them as compared to handling adult egos and awkwardness today!

4.       Expression and experience: As a carefree phase of life, childhood enables us to express our true feelings and emotions. Without any pressure or guilt, expressing what the heart feels was the most amazing aspect of childhood. Be it tears while demanding something or joy while getting goodies, be it anger over fight with friends or surprise over unexpected gifts, childhood is all about expressing and experiencing everything with purity.

5.       Goals and plans: One cannot talk about childhood without mentioning the numerous goals and plans made with friends. From career to house, city to hobby, every single thing is chalked in depth with friends, giving way to a happy dream life. While some plans are accomplished with success, the reality of future appears far different than those magical words laced with innocence.

It is impossible to pen down every single thought about childhood. A massive subject with innumerable thoughts, this phase truly offers more than one can ever imagine. Though practical reality greets us along the adult phase with loads of drama and adventure, childhood still continues to be the most memorable and favorite time of our lives! It is only after we inculcate every single lesson from our childhood into adult life, when we realize that there is something missing. Unless a teacher reminds us of our mistake, there is no fun in erasing it from our books!

Celebrating second blog-anniversary!

      It all started exactly two years ago. On a cold snowy winter evening of 21^st February 2015, powered with loads of ideas and fueled with limited scope of my vocabulary, when I started to pen down my first blog post, little did I know that the journey will reach this milestone today. After two years of blogging and 126 posts of variety, when I sit behind my laptop today, I still feel like a small little kid venturing into something new. Each blog post has been nothing less than a challenge, as I strive to sound sane, meaningful, humorous and informational all at once. Though I have reached this far in the journey, I still experience moments of anxiety when I release the link or moments of self-doubt, wondering if the chords shall strike with the readers as expected.

    Hunting for topics, playing the idea in mind, framing words in an imaginary world, typing them out and finally reading it aloud constitute the steps of every blog, before they are finally shaped into a post. If one asks me about the best aspect of blogging, my prompt answer will be the opportunity to deliver words as they run in my mind. Conveying what I believe or speaking out what I feel is an irreplaceable feeling of blogging that empowers me along the journey. But at the same time, I do sense the responsibility of using this freedom wisely. Just because my words can flow in any direction they want, they cannot be misused in any way.

 If you ask me about the toughest part of blogging, it will be reading the post from the perspective of a reader. As soon as I read my own words, rising conflicts between a writer and reader occupy the center-stage, giving way to an epic drama. While balancing between these two demanding roles, the end turns into a somewhat satisfactory piece, waiting for its true readers. 

     Call it feedback, comments, compliments or criticism, each of these play a significant role. Unless I get a critical comment from my parents or an encouraging note from my grandfather, unless I get a thumbs up from my sister or an approving nod from my husband, unless I get appreciation from my relatives or feedback from my friends, the quest for acceptance continues. But again, I need to remind myself about the sole purpose of blogging. It is more about seeking joy than gaining recognition, it is more about creating something unique than validating against a standard measurement.

   My journey as a blogger has brought me close to the wonderful world of creative arts. The satisfaction of creating a piece by one’s own hands cannot be offered by any other task in the universe. The sense of creation is all that radiates, when an artist puts his talents and skills to work. Though my journey completes two years today, I still get the feeling of a clear slate whenever I sit to write my thoughts. No matter how many posts I create, I will always feel as an amateur blogger.

   While walking down the memory lane of these two good blogging years, I was tempted to pen down some of the aspects learnt so far.

What has blogging taught me over these years, that influences the person in me?

1.       Ability to face criticism - accepting the fact that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, judgments are wrong way of analysis and we are defined by our thoughts, beliefs, ideas and faith.

2.       Openness to new ideas – inspiration can strike from the least expected sources, flexible approach to experiment with novel topics. (Fallen leaves on the road have inspired one of my posts!)

3.       There is no right or wrong way – arts is defined by our opinions. It cannot be declared as correct or incorrect based on any technical database.

4.       Patience is the underlying hero- it is important to believe in efforts and work hard towards the goal. Things may not turn out as expected, but patience is all you need to keep going.

5.       Not every single day is yours – many a times, when I fail in my flow of words, I remind myself about the uncertainty of life. It is absolutely perfect to have bad days when my vocabulary and inspiration simply refuse to walk with me!

6.       Enjoy the process- This lesson definitely came the hard way. While being excited about the appreciation, I would often forget about the pure joy of framing the post. It is only after a sense of satisfaction hits you, when you realize that there is more joy in the process than the end result.

With this, I come to the end of my blog-anniversary post. None of this would have been possible without you readers who support, comment, criticize and encourage me at every single step. Hope this journey continues ahead and hope I fill your minds with my gift of words! 

Love is in the air....

 

      With Valentine’s Day over our heads, it was essential to write an obvious and expected post on ‘Love’. A feeling that empowers us all through the year, yet resurfaces in the most romantic way only on 14^th February, there is something in the air that makes us fall in love over and over again. Now, when it comes to this cupid’s day, there are two categories of individuals. 

    One category strongly believes in this celebration, making innumerable efforts and plans to make it special. From dates to gifts, holiday plans to customized items, they have everything in place for their loved someone. Their mode of expression may change, but underlying thought on love will always remain the same. One look at such individuals and you will definitely fall in love over the thought of love. Coming to the second category, this group detests such days to the core. While their belief rests over strength of the bond, they are against special gifts for the occasion.

     Their views revolve around commercialization, when they complain about profitability of such unique days. For them love is all through the year! They do not need reasons for expression. Both these categories have valid points in their diary. After all, love is a feeling and expression is an act. So, whether you fall under the first category or whether you are staunch followers of the second, everything is good as far as both the better halves belong to the same club. Imagine the plight when one is heads and heels over the day to express love and the other one is least bothered!

    Looking at our example, we both seem to stand in between the doors to both categories. Not planning anything special till the actual day, assuming it to be just a formality; only to find some last moment plans to celebrate our new found love all over again! Though I cannot claim to be part of the first group, I do enjoy the thought of having a special day. A day about love, a day about affection – it is definitely fantastic to spread the charm of hearts.

    When the blogger in me thought about relevant ideas for the blog, framing one over love in this month of February was somewhat mandatory. But, I was not convinced about writing a stereotypical post on love. Away from boyfriend-girlfriend or husband and wife, I wanted to present love that is unique yet true in the real sense. Relationships, friendships, neighborhood, community are some of the other sources of love that appear touching and emotional at the same time. As we transcend over the ladder of life, we meet numerous people in our journey. Some enter into our lives due to a small purpose but end up with a large meaning. Their presence adds a beautiful difference to our living, making it worthwhile. Many a times, the relationship tag is not significant or essential, what matters is the underlying feelings of trust, love, care and honesty.

   Think about your siblings or crazy group of friends. Think about your cousins or work colleagues. Each of them bring unique doses of happiness, love and joy into lives. Though love of life partner is the central idea of Valentine’s Day, there is no harm in expanding its scope. We can definitely customize this holiday and include unique relations to its credit.

  Let us look at some unusual, yet loving moments, memories and relations in our lives that deserve a mention on this special day!

1.       It is love when your little nephew/niece recognizes your photograph and calls out your name for the first time. (Thanks to the long distance affair with my nephew, I missed that particular moment, yet talks about it from my dear sister make me so happy!)

2.       It is love when your childhood friends talk about your silly mistakes and mischievous pranks in the past.

3.       It is love when your best friend reminds you of your strengths to handle difficult situations.

4.       It is love when your cousins send you messages even amidst busy schedule just for a random chat.

5.       It is love when your aunts and uncles adopt latest mode of communication to stay in touch with you, while being miles away.

6.       It is love when neighbors greet you every day, with a smile.

7.       It is love when people appreciate you for your hard work and efforts.

8.       It is love when little kids smile at you.

9.       It is love when customer service individuals help you with essence of kindness.

10.   It is love when nature and environment offer you the best weather and a lovely day.

11. It is love when your bunch of friends suggest you best restaurants and hangout places in town. 

And lastly, it is love when you read my posts and offer your valuable feedback!

It was definitely difficult to restrict myself to this short list. When I started with the article, I was unsure about the contents, but now I understand that love is truly everywhere. It is an emotion in the air as it is all around us.

Fall in love, express it, enjoy and treasure the feeling, after all life is too long to live it alone!

Lively soul or lifeless body?

    

      I am sure this title speaks for itself. We all have been gifted with a common package called ‘LIFE’. One birth, diverse phases, varied relations, numerous years, colorful dreams, doses of feelings and innumerable experiences mark the contents of this package. How you choose to enjoy this gift is totally your call.

Whether you wish to spend every single present moment in a lively manner or whether you wish to worry for the future, it is your choice.

Whether you believe that you are responsible for your own happiness or whether you blame everything on your destiny, situations and those around you, it is your choice.

Whether you trust that everything happens for a good reason or whether you soak in sorrow, regretting every single thing happening to you, it is your choice.

Whether you believe in enjoying the present or whether you choose to save everything for the future, it is your choice.

Whether you travel your path as a lively soul or a lifeless body, it is your choice.

Now, if you read these choices carefully with a relaxed frame of mind, I am sure each one of you will opt for the first option. But, the real question is do we really practice the same in our lives? Do we really enjoy every single moment as a lively soul, without caring about the future or treating our a life as a responsibility?

   I definitely belonged to the group of second choices as I was more about future than the present. Worrying about next step rather than concentrating on the current moment forms a habit in our system, before we realize its consequences. Only when you look into the past, you understand that you wasted those precious moments like a lifeless body. Many a times, our biggest regret is not living every moment to the fullest. But, by the time you may realize it, it is impossible to turn to the past.

 This brings us back to the topic. What are the factors that determine your membership into one of the two groups? Are there any aptitude tests that can evaluate your status?

  

   Unfortunately, there are no such warning tests that can change your approach towards life at the right time. It all depends on your own choices towards living every single moment to the fullest. Rather than worrying about uncertain happenings tomorrow, focus on the known troubles today. Known situations can be handled with all your concentration, instead of diverting part of it towards unknown challenges of the future. No one can claim that the journey will be smooth, if you opt for the lively soul category, but you will certainly end up with more happiness, memories, positivity and satisfaction.

   Those belonging to the lively soul team do come across their own set of problems. Just because they choose a carefree approach does not eliminate them from troubles. Yet, their overall belief changes the complete picture. They work hard towards their shortcomings and eradicate the mountain of troubles, but while doing so; they do not forget their smiles, laughter, positivity and hope. Lively souls make sure that every situation is dealt with an open mind and a happy heart. They will be forced to taste bitter medicines as part of the regime, but they do keep sweet candies by their side.

   

     Losing hope or soaking into worries is not a part of their routine. When they enroll themselves as lively souls, they give away tensions and regrets from their stock. They only possess the desire to gather maximum memories as they walk along the path. Instead of measuring life by the amount of success, achievements, dreams and goals, they evaluate their level of happiness and liveliness. How alive were you every single day is all that matters as they take one day at a time.

     Coming to our second category, they believe in success and achievements of the future. They are unable to seize the moment or enjoy the present, as their mind is preparing for tomorrow’s examination. Spending their present with smiles and laughter appears as a waste of time, as they have loads to do for the future. All their life is spent in chasing a mirage that may not even be true. As they move around as lifeless bodies, they forget the true happiness of life. Unless you enjoy the present, it is impossible to expect the same in the future. It does not mean, we can give away all our efforts and spend everything we have. But, it simply boils down to making the most of today. Planning and analysis are good to offer us guidelines, yet engaging all our time behind them can mean nothing at all.

    Lively souls are not against preparing for the future, but they always wonder about the need to ruin the present. Tomorrow may bring some amount of disappointments, but definitely not at the cost of spending your joy of today.

  With this, I conclude my thought to allow you to think. What category will you select and execute – lively soul or lifeless body? ….the choice is all yours….